Loving Someone with a Mental Illness

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Is Unconditional Love Even Possible?

I stood outside the door as I often did –  trying to prepare myself for what was to occur. I pondered, “Had I made a mistake, was I wrong to come yet again?” I could hear the voices of so many, “Why do you go, she doesn’t want you?” “Why do you put yourself through such pain?” “Let her long for you.” or  “Tough love is what she needs not unconditional love.” Their words left me wondering, was this too...

When You Want To Help: Eight Strategies For Loving Someone With An Anxiety Disorder

In my head, I was screaming out, “Please, not again, I just can’t listen to you talk about what might happen!” It wasn’t that I didn’t want to help; after all, this is my daughter whom I love dearly and would do anything in the world for her. But my support seemed to make things worse. I didn’t know how to help. Have you ever uttered those words or entertained these thoughts while trying to help someone with an anxiety...

Standing In The Gap When It Hurts!

Give me a cause or a person that can’t stand up for themselves, and I am usually all in. What about you? Do you get a thrill out of fighting for injustices or people that just need a little extra help getting what they deserve or need? I do. But what about when it hurts? Will you stand in the gap for another when the pain is so intense it hurts to breathe?...

When Holiday Traditions Hurt

Maybe you are a little bit like me, and planning for the holidays and creating lasting traditions is just who you are. You love the sweet rituals that the holidays bring but what happens when you find yourself in a place where the holiday traditions hurt? Maybe circumstances have made the traditions impossible, or someone is missing from the celebrations. Traditions once loved can now feel unbearable to carry on. Back in 2008, my heart ached at every step of...

Navigating The Holidays With Mental Illness

The holidays are here! For some, this brings feelings of excitement and anticipation of wonderful gatherings full of joy, family, friendship, and love. I say if that is you – embrace it and enjoy every second of it! What if you have a family member that struggles with mental illness? You may be entering this holiday season with caution. The question burning in your head may be, “Will we find any joy this season?” Then again just maybe you are...

Blessings In The Midst Of My Child’s Mental Illness

I know many of you are thinking how on earth can a “Mom” put the word “blessing” and “mental illness” in the same sentence. I thought that too, until it had become apparent that I had changed for the better through this experience with my child’s mental health challenges. Let me make it clear; I am by no means saying, “mental illness is a blessing.” It would be so unfair and incorrect to make such a bold statement.  However, in...

Do your words add to the suffering of others?

Do you often hear from a loved one, “my life sucks,” or “everything is horrible in my life”? In that moment do you immediately go to the place of trying to fix it or make it right? I know by nature the optimism in me comes flying out in full force. I quickly scan the horizon and see all the places that to me are not so bad. Then I immediately find it my duty to inform all about the...