Why Would I Let Go Of A Friendship?
Do you desperately try to hang on to friendships that were not meant to be for a lifetime? Just today, I was pondering a friendship that meant so much to me and yet had slipped away. I wondered to myself, “Do I try again to resurrect this relationship?” “Is there something I did or didn’t do to make it disintegrate?” Or, “Is it time to accept this particular friendship was for a season and a reason, and now I need to let it go?”
This beautiful friend of mine was my right-hand person as I walked through a period of crises in my life. My heart is full of gratitude for this special lady. I could not have done it without her expertise, love, laughter, and faith. But for some unknown reason, this rapport didn’t seem to survive, and it bothers me.
I want all friends to be lifetime friends, but in reality, is this how friendships are designed to be?
On many occasions, I have tried to reach out. I know of no wrongdoing, yet I ponder – “Did I do something offensive that I am not aware of?” “Was I not supportive enough or too draining with my many needs?” It makes no human sense, and then I ran across this poem, and I realized she was meant to be a friend for a season and a reason.
I discovered – when we hang on to friendships that were not meant to last forever, it spoils the richness of what we had. It somehow discounts the closeness that was once felt. We waste precious time pondering what went wrong and sometimes even our own worth.
So today, I will recognize this particular person as one of my greatest and strongest relationships. I will always treasure the time we both took to cultivate a closeness and be there for each other in that season of our lives. It was not wasted time because the affection lives on in my heart as I take the goodness from it and send it out to others.
It is okay to have friends for only a season!
Do you struggle with letting go of friendships that were meant to be for a season or a reason?