Struggling to Embrace the Next Season

August 24, 2017

Do you ever try to hang on to a season in life or struggle to embrace the new season? Yep, I was one of those mommas' that didn’t want her baby going off...Do you ever try to hang on to a season in life or struggle to embrace the new season? Yep, I was one of those mommas’ that didn’t want her baby going off to Kindergarten. I remember it well! As I grasped for ways to make time slow down the minutes kept clicking and the first day of school was upon us.

I loved the messy carefree time when we noticed ladybugs, ants, made messes, took naps together, cuddled, and read books. This season of parenting was “my sweet spot.” Nothing would convince me to move willingly to the next stage of life. After all, two of my children had already been relinquished into the familiar school routine. I had no desire to release my baby and move forward with him too.

But as you often hear, there is a season for everything and wishing it not to come about just doesn’t work.

Everything has its own time, and there is a specific time for every activity under heaven:  Ecclesiastes 3:1

I had always been known to shed a few tears each year as the first day of school approached, but this was different. I felt as though the dam was going to break.

Of course, I had successfully sent my two daughters off into the big world without mommy – but this particular school year was different. SO different and I dreaded it.

Ethan, my very last child, would be entering ALL DAY KINDERGARTEN. Darn, I knew I should have had that fourth child even though the doctor said it was not a good idea. You are probably thinking; I am one of those moms’ all wrapped up in her kids lives with no life of her own.

To the contrary, I had a career, business, husband, and friends of my own. Okay – to be completely honest, my kids were the place I loved spending the majority of my time. Thank goodness I was able to work part-time during that season I loved so much.

Of course I wanted him to grow up to be who God created him to be, but still, I didn’t want this season of life to end or change. It was my “sweet spot season.” The season where we could stay in pj’s, attend mommy and me classes, build lego’s, and pick up his sisters together. 

Do you have a season in parenting that you like the best?

As we approached that inevitable day, my struggling was intense. My method of trying to wish it away and choke back the tears just wasn’t working. My sweet friend noticed my despair and offered a bit of wisdom to carry me forward.

She ever so sweetly said, “Maree” –

“The next seasons of life are good too!”

She was someone I trusted who was two years ahead of me in this parenting journey. I had watched her embrace the next stages of life, and yes, they were good for her. So I decided to take a leap of faith and cling to her words.

I have clung to those words over the years as all of my children have advanced from one season to the next.

Just recently that same child who ended my carefree time at home by going to Kindergarten graduated from college. Once again those same feelings welled up inside. I didn’t want this season to end. Now he would enter the working world with no more carefree days plus a wallet where he can afford his own meal.

Yes, I was excited and proud to see him graduate from college and move forward with his life.  However, the tears welled up, and I wrestled once again with another season coming to an end. A season I loved and adored.  I was convinced the next season of life could never be as good as the last.

Then my friend’s precious words from long ago rang in my head reminding me

“The next seasons of life are good too!”

Even though I had a lifetime of examples of how each stage had been good I didn’t want to recognize this truth.

 

AND THEN……

Just the other day I received this text out of the blue from my son who now works full-time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

So those words from long ago can ring true and the next season of life can be just as good.  He has grown into a man who is hardworking, has a life of his own but remains kind, caring and still wants a little time with his mom now and then.

Embrace the new season while cherishing the memories of the last one. 

So all of you momma’s out there struggling to let go of the season you love – listen up.

Of course, sometimes we find ourselves in seasons that are challenging and painful but even in those – good can come from them. We only have this moment guaranteed –  so do not waste it living in the past or future seasons.

Are you struggling to let go of a season?
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38 Comments

  1. Reply

    sarahgirl3

    I was sad when mine started school, but elementary school has been my favorite season. My oldest is now in middle school, the age I dreaded most. Last night I got to sit with her and her sweet friend in the car to and from youth group. I loved talking and laughing with them, so maybe it won’t be so hard!
    Love that you get to be friends with your kids now 🙂

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      Maree Dee

      Sarah,

      I loved the car rides too. My son went to a private school a distance away so carpooling necessary. I loved it. I have fond memories of the music, laughing, and conversations we had. Enjoy the good in the middle school year even if you do have a little ugly. I all comes with the territory of parenting. Blessings, Maree

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    Debbie Kitterman

    Maree, it can be so easy for us to fall in love with the seasons we are in, but sometimes we can forget how much good is waiting for us in the next season! I know that change can be hard for me, so sometimes a shift in seasons is the last thing we want, but it may end up being the best thing for us! I’ve slowly been learning to embrace the change instead of running from it. Thanks for sharing, I’m visiting you today from #TellHisStory Linkup.

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      Maree Dee

      Debbie,

      I have found your words to be so true in my life. “Sometimes a shift in seasons” has been the best thing ever. It even applies to the seasons that have been so challenging and unexpected.

      Blessings,

      Maree

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    Sarah Koontz (@sarahekoontz)

    Maree Dee, I just love this post. Everything about it! I recently had a friend say something simple, yet profound, to me. God used her words to comfort and redirect me at the same time. So grateful for friends who are willing to bravely speak truth into our lives.

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      Maree Dee

      Sarah, Yes, I am so grateful for friends that will speak into our lives. So glad you stopped by. I am so glad you had a good friend that was able to have words of comfort for you. Blessings, Maree

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    hopeful50

    O! Maree Dee I love getting confirmation via a blogpost. I’ve been praying Eccl 3 for something very specific in our life and bam…you reference it today. Thank you for being His mouthpiece. Neighbors at Kristin’s.

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      Maree Dee

      I love it when that happens. It made my heart smile. Thank you for stopping by and letting me know.God sure works in mysterious, wonderful ways.

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    mbethany

    Such great wisdom that the next season is good too!

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      Maree Dee

      Thank you!

  6. Reply

    hopeful50

    I hope you went hiking!

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      Maree Dee

      Well kind of, we went for an hour walk/hike on a paved path and then to dinner. It was marvelous. Blessings, Maree

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    Lovely Little Lives

    I needed this reminder today as my oldest child goes off to preschool! Definitely trying to embrace the new season!

    1. Reply

      Maree Dee

      Praying preschool is a success for both your oldest and for you. I am so glad my reminder helped. Blessings, Maree

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    Lori Delgado

    Maree
    As I read this I cried, but also grateful to be reminded to enjoy each season knowing that God has us . My house used to be full of 3 girls plus lots of their friends . I have twin nieces that lived with me and a daughter a yr younger than them. Today, like your son they have all moved on . My daughter was the most recent ….in May . I was missing them tonight and feeling sad but now I am reminded to enjoy each season. Thank you for your encouragement .
    Lori

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      Maree Dee

      Lori,

      I am so glad I could remind you to enjoy each season. I bet it is quiet around there after having a full house. I hope you do enjoy a little peace and stillness. You deserve it. Blessings, Maree

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    Janet

    I enjoyed your post in that it is a reminder that our children often know what we need even before we do. You are a great mother and have raised a beautiful caring son. God knew what you needed and when. Thanks for sharing.

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      Maree Dee

      Janet, Thank you for your comment. You were too sweet. I love it when you stop by and leave a comment. Blessings, Maree

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    Joanne Viola (@JViola79)

    Maree, such a good post. It is amazing how the changing seasons of family life can be so emotional. So glad to stop here tonight. Blessings!

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      Maree Dee

      Joanne,

      I am so glad you stopped by too. Hope you have a fantastic weekend. Blessings, Maree

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    satrntgr

    I thank God for all of the seasons. Our son started his junior year of high school this year and it makes me lose my breath, knowing that he’s almost ready to head off to college. Giving it all up to God and knowing he will comfort all and be with us. 🙂

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      Maree Dee

      I am so glad you are giving it all up to God. The time goes by so fast, doesn’t it? Maree

  12. Reply

    Michele Morin

    Helping boy #3 pack up for college last night, I fought tears and thought, “I’ve done this twice already. What’s wrong with me??” But there is no fast track through this process of letting go. It seems to happen season by season (as you have so beautifully pointed my heart toward Ecclesiastes) and one event at a time. Praying along with you that we will keep our hearts open to feel all the feelings God designed us to have, and then to trust Him with our actions and attitudes around the experience.

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      Maree Dee

      Michele,

      I know exactly what you mean. I used to cry the first day of school every year, and it made no sense. I was excited my kids were moving forward yet sad they were leaving a season behind. Praying for your heart as you send your third off to college.

      Maree

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    Gail

    I so resonate with this.
    I have an only child. Each stage of him leaving and growing up came with bittersweet feelings.
    Now he is married and lives 1000 miles away. my heart hurts still at the distance but it holds all the good feelings and feels so proud of the man he has become.
    He is coming down tomorrow to see me and take me out for the day. I am so looking forward to spoiling him like i did when he was wee.

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      Maree Dee

      Gail,

      You made me smile; I am so excited for your day tomorrow. What a treat. Praying your day is everything you want plus more. Blessings, Maree

  14. Reply

    Brenda

    Amen to all of this, Maree. I was one of those moms who cried when my kids went to kindergarten, too. My only one left in school is in 10th grade now. And, it’s so true…there have been many good days. — When I was in that younger mothering part, I thought it was my sweet spot, but I also really love the older child phase. Where you can connect and talk — and hike 🙂 — It’s a beautiful and exhausting thing, this motherhood. 🙂

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      Maree Dee

      Brenda,

      You said it well, “Motherhood is a beautiful and exhausting thing.” I feel blessed God graced and entrusted me with three wonderful children. You are so right it is nice when you can connect and talk and even better when they grow up, and you can be friends.

      Blessings,

      Maree

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    Leslie

    Maree, I LOVE this post! It is so timely. I have one in college and her younger brother just got his driver’s license and heads out the door all by himself now, independently taking himself wherever he needs to go. I don’t know why it hit me at this point, but it has. I’ve felt the wistful sadness of seasons ending. But I know from experience that the next season will be full of good things and possibilities I can’t even imagine. Your post was so encouraging to me today, Maree. I’m looking so forward to your guest post on my site this coming Monday! Thank you!

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      Maree Dee

      Leslie,

      Oh, I feel for you that new driver’s license can be a scary time. Praying for safety. I am not surprised it hit you at this point. I know for me with the last one it hit me at all different times. It would come on out of nowhere. I am so glad my post was encouraging to you. I know my friend’s words have carried me through the years. I have also learned it is okay to embrace the sadness along with the new season. Both can be true at the same time.

      Thank you for the opportunity to guest post on your site. I hope to be able to have you guest post on my site soon. I just can’t seem to catch up enough to think ahead. FYI – I named you in an award that I will send to you next Thursday.

      Blessings,

      Maree

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    Karen

    I have friends who are always pining away about their kids growing up and missing the younger days… and i hear other parents talk about that ‘wonderful day’ when their kids will be grown. I decided a long time ago to embrace where they are right now… and enjoy what IS. But yes, I know what it is to think about that ‘next season’. I’ve homeschooled all my kids from Kindergarten. My 4th and last child will graduate high school in 2 years. Transitioning out of being a homeschool mom after 24 years will be an adjustment, but I’m trusting God to open the door to new adventures on the horizon after that chapter in my life closes. thanks for your post.

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      Maree Dee

      Karen,

      You are a super mom. Wow, I am impressed you have homeschooled all of them. I did it two years more out of need than desire. I found it rewarding but difficult. You are not kidding that will be a big transition and adjustment. I have no doubt God will open doors to new adventures for you.

      I have to admit it took me a bit to decide to embrace life right where I was. It was a skill I had to learn. I am so glad you learned it early on. We can waste so much precious time in looking ahead or back.

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    debbieputman

    Every season has good, but it is wonderful to look back at our “sweet spots.”

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      Maree Dee

      Debbie – I agree, every season has good in it. I also find each season is so different with each child. Have a wonderful evening!
      Blessings, Maree

  18. Reply

    Blogger Loves The King

    It goes so very fast, but every season is wonderful. Love spending time with our grown up kids and their spouses and now so blessed to have 5 grands. Three of them were born in March. I’m so busy spending several days a weeks with all the grands. Loving this season and savoring memories of past seasons, and yes we just enjoyed a week’s vacation in Colorado with our son, his wife, her parents, and their 4 year old and twins who are 5 months.

    As you said the “next seasons of life are good too”. They truly are.

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      Maree Dee

      It does go so fast. Wow, you must be busy with three grandchildren all born in March plus two more. I do look forward to that stage, just not quite yet. Thank you for the reassurance that the “next seasons of life are good too.” Thank you for stopping by and adding your encouraging words for all of the seasons to come. Blessings, Maree

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    Meg Weyerbacher

    Oh my goodness this is so sweet! I am sitting here picturing my son (5th grade) saying these words to me and about teared up. Time does fly but I am glad that friend told you these words. I need to remember this too.

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      Maree Dee

      Meg – Time does fly by. I hope you cherish and enjoy every minute you can with your son. Maree

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